Computer free?

Your life without a computer: what does it look like?

If I were to consider life without a computer, I’d have to include my iPhone in any of my thinking. Because, a modern smart phone is a computer, just a highly mobile one. Everything I once did on my computer, I can now do on my phone. It’s crazy. Watch a tv show, do it on my phone. Take photos on holiday, do it on my phone. Write a blog, do it on my phone. Listen to music, do it on my phone. So, mobile has to be included.

As much as I would like to say, not much would change, everything would. My phone has my multiple alarms set on it (every 15 minutes after 5am), so I would need to find an actual alarm clock. I usually have the news playing, either DW or Sky News. Which is being played off my phone, so none of that. On the way to work, I get the bus, and my ticket is stored on my phone, so I’d need to by a physical one off the driver.

I work in customer returns for a big company. So when in work, I process returned orders on a computer. So… I couldn’t do that. Like, couldn’t do my actual job. And that means customer’s wouldn’t get their refund, which isn’t ideal for anyone. My work uses networks, and algorithms to operate the warehouse. The computer system knows where every single item in the warehouse is, and can send someone to pick it should it need shipped to another warehouse or a customer. If there were no computers, nothing would work.

Pretty crazy. Technology actually plays a massive role in my life, i kind of knew that already. But you never think about how massive an impact it has. It’s maybe why it’s so important to try and take time away from technology. Go for a walk, read a book, take part in a hobby of some sort. Put down the phones and computers and do something else, if you can. Obviously, in these high-tech times, it can be impossible to put down devices, especially when your work relies on it. So you manage it

Prompt Time: More Attentive?

Daily writing prompt
What details of your life could you pay more attention to?

There are a lot of aspects of my life that I need to pay more attention to. Especially at the moment, as I feel stuck in place. However, I do feel like I am my worst critic, and just give myself a whole pile of issues which I find hard to prioritise. I mean, I need to sort out my diet, lose weight, sleep better, do more drawing, clear out my room, buy new furniture, look for better paying job, buy a car, get my own place… The list of things I want to do is endless. Which makes it hard to find something to focus on, as there is just so much, it seems overwhelming. Like, what do you focus on?

Maybe, I need to think about things a little bit less as a list of things, and find a more realistic thing to tackle. So, the thing I think I would like to pay more attention to is my own mindset. The problem I have is that I look at stuff, like the list of ‘aims’ noted above, and I can’t focus on one, I just feel defeated before I can do anything. So, that is what I need to work on. Learn to look at my aims more individually, so that they are more achievable. I need to get more a ‘can do’ attitude, rather than a ‘can’t do’ attitude.

I have been looking into things on the internet, and there is an aspect of ADHD called ‘task paralysis’, it is when a person can’t complete a task as they don’t deem conditions perfect. I find that reading through articles explaining it in more detail, and it does make sense to me. I know I just struggle to see the worthiness of doing things, sometimes. Like, why bother if the most likely outcome is that I am going to fail. It’s like I am facing an avalanche, and I can’t even run away, despite my mind screaming to escape. So, I am going to try and work on that, as it has a really big impact on my life.

I end up being left sitting, not moving, nothing ever changing.

Prompt Time: Valued Trait

What’s the trait you value most about yourself?

I always try to be kind to other people. You never know what someone else is going through, so it is best to be nice to them. Treat someone the way you want to be treated, that’s what my Gran used to say when I was little.

Sometimes though, I have found, that despite my best intentions, I may not be as kind as I think. It could be because of my anxiety, because I can get quite ‘nippy’ when I am anxious. I’m usually irritated by myself, but I can react to other people. Not on purpose, but it still happens. And then I feel bad for being rude, no matter how unintentional it was.

But effort matters, smile a people, a wee ‘hello’ can make a difference. Small positive interactions can be a turning point in someone’s day. And I think it’s something so simple, everyone should try.

Take A Break

Recently I have enjoyed some time off work. It wasn’t the usual, staying at home and pottering about. For once, I actually went away for some sunshine, away to Cyprus (with stops in Amsterdam and Paris). I hadn’t been abroad since 2019, before the pandemic, and it felt great to get away. I had never been to Amsterdam or Paris before, so it was nice to see somewhere different

Amsterdam was a flying visit, and was really hot. The transport into the city centre, from the airport, was very easy, and the city seems very walkable. You just need to be mindful for the bikes, as they are everywhere, and they don’t always follow the traffic lights. There are designated lanes for bikes, to keep them separate from cars and pedestrians. We took a trip on a canal cruise which offered wine and cheese along with the canal cruise. When I travel with my friend, we never really do tourist stuff, so it was a nice different experience.

It was a lovely way to see the city, and was so relaxing. I would recommend it to anyone who needs to see the city, as it was a lot of fun, and super relaxing. And I think it was the only way for someone, as clumsy as me, to see the city without being run over by a bike.

The main point of the holiday was for the Scotland football game in Cyprus. For me and and my friend, it is has been our annual holiday, our chance to experience another country. We were based in Paphos, which is a lovely part of the country. Spent a lot of time chilling out, and reading, which to me is a great holiday. And also spent a lot of time singing Scotland songs at the pub. Which is normal for a tartan army trip.

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The stop on the way home was Paris. The plan was to spend a few hours in the city, and do some tourist things, like we had done in Amsterdam. But, alas, this did not happen to our expectations, mostly due to a run of bad luck with public transport, which concluded with arriving at the airport 30 minutes before gate closure. It was a nightmare. But all ended okay. We did spend a few hours in Paris. Saw the Louvre and Notre-Dame, and had a (late) breakfast at a wee cafe, which gave us free pastries. (Note: I will never say no to free food.) It was a lovely city, and I would really like to go back and explore more.

By the time we landed back in Edinburgh, it was pouring down with rain. And, with how hot it had been on our holiday, I, for one, was very happy to see it. I came home, got a take-away, and relaxed with a movie. But, to be honest, as much as I love going away on holiday, nothing beats getting back in your own bed. That night was the best sleep I had experienced in weeks. The only problem now, is that I feel like I need another holiday already.

To Keep A Hobby

I have been having regular phone calls with a therapist, and one of the topics that has been discussed centres around hobbies. It is something. that I never used to have a problem with, in fact I had lots of hobbies. Reading, drawing, writing… just lots of wee bits that I’d do outside work. Over the last several years, I have struggled do anything regularly for any decent length of time.

So, during my appointments, we have been discussing how to start doing hobbies regularly. I always start off with good intentions, but then I miss a day, and quickly lose any momentum. I have been doing some reading on how to start doing things regularly. It is rather difficult to find anything actually useful, as most results seem to be about how to use hobbies on a CV or in a job interview. Which is not what I am looking for at all. I mean, a hobby is supposed to be something that you do for enjoyment, something to help you chill out from work or any other stresses of life.

It then frustrates me, because I end up stressing about not doing hobbies. So, it has the opposite affect that what is intended. It is super annoying, if I were to be honest. It is like when I want to do something, no matter how fun it might be, my brain seems to list it as just another task. So, whilst I may get excitement and enjoyment whilst doing the thing, I can’t get the motivation to get the activity started. It is a bizarre feeling to have, let alone try to explain.

Ouch

I am finding myself struggling these days. It is numerous in reasons, but focuses around the fact that I am sore. My hands and my feet seem to be the big problem. And, I am honestly just so tired.

It feels like my muscles have always been easy to strain. Like, if I lift something too heavy, my hands are sore for days. I sleep on my arm, which I seem to like to do, my shoulder and neck can be sore for over a week. Or, that is what happened last week. I remember complaining about this years ago, and the Doctor telling me it was tendonitis, but surely not every tendon. It obviously isn’t every tendon, but it feels like it sometimes. And then my rheumatoid arthritis has good and bad days, which is the icing on the shit cake that is my health.

I thought I had an answer. I’d go to the gym. Sign up for a monthly pass, and go at least 1 morning a week. Hasn’t happened, yet. Mostly because when I am mentally knackered for having to constantly push myself to do things, so when nothing is planned, everything just stops. I run out of ‘oomph’ to push through the pain and do something. As I sit here typing this, both my hands are sore (typing is taking forever), both my feet are sore, my right ankle is painfully swollen, my right shoulder hurts, and there is pain in my neck every so often. And, I am sitting down, and despite being sore, this is the most comfortable I have been all day. It is one of those days where the 12 steps in my house that I take to my bedroom, feel like a marathon.

I am working to lose some weight, as this should help my foot pain. I hope. But, because I struggle to get moving sometimes, exercising is very challenging. That is without my brain deciding that leaving the house is too much for the day. I am trying to do my best. I did get out today, visited my friend, despite my walking around like an 80 year old. And when I waited for my dinner to cook, I had a wee dance to some ska and oi music. It’s the wee things, I guess.

A Week End

It is finally my weekend.

It is Saturday night and I am sitting watching some quiz show, that doesn’t seem to have much questions. The good thing is that it is TV that I can ignore, which is perfect after a week of training new people. There has been so much talking at work this week, that I feel like I am losing my voice, whilst also being sick of the sound of my own voice.

I was planning on taking some overtime next week, but I was too slow. It gets put on an internal app, and it’s a free for all on who actually gets the overtime. I, unfortunately, was too slow, and never managed to book anything. Which is annoying, as I am due to go on holiday to Cyprus in a few weeks. And I want to take as much money as possible. Alas, my plans don’t seem to be coming together.

So, because of this, I have a few days off work now. Which, is a good thing, since I am so so sore. It is just trying to keep myself busy, as when I go idle, I get bored and sore. So, a lot of effort has to be made, to keep going.

Still yuck

I mentioned in my last entry, I haven’t been feeling very well. I don’t really know what it is, my stomach just feels a little funky. It has been this way for a good few days. I mean, I am still able to do everything, which is at least something positive. I haven’t eaten anything different, so I don’t really understand where it is coming from.

So I have been lazing around, watching Friends. I did manage to take some stuff to the laundrette, and it was really windy, so I was able to dry everything. This is more than I usually do on a day off, so the fact I did it when I wasn’t feeling very great, is a good thing. I am usually knackered after work. So, that’s something I guess.

Yuck

I am currently lying in my bed, with the worst stomach pains I have had in a long time. It almost feels like I have been punched in the stomach. Maybe something was wrong with the veggie kebab I had for dinner. I feel most comfortable lying down, so that’s why I’m in bed before 10pm.

It does not help that I am also feeling sore. This means that I am dictating this post on my phone. My computer is better at this than my phone, which is strange. I figured that because they are both Apple, that they’d work the same. It’s a strange thing, where I feel like I need to learn how to speak clearer. But the strange thing is, that when I speak on apps like TikTok and put subtitles on, it picks up everything so well. So the capability is there, it’s just not

Anyway, I have one more day at work, and then it’s the weekend. I am going to try and have an early night, in the hope I feel okay for work tomorrow. Yay!

Trying Help

Because my mental health has been poor recently, it has been effecting my work. Where I have been getting very overwhelmed, and struggling to complete my daily tasks. It got to the stage, where a few weeks ago, I was so worked up and had several panic attacks, which led to me speaking to team leads and my manager. I felt so stupid, but I didn’t want to let people down at work anymore.

I was referred to the Occupation Health team at my work, where I was scheduled appointments to discuss my mental health. We started looking at the big triggers, the things that would start me feeling negative about myself and my situation. One of the biggest things are when I feel like I have no plans, or things are out of my control. I feel helpless, and in turn, stupid, which makes me feel very anxious. So, one of the things that were discussed were figuring out a routine that I could do, so that I wasn’t aimless at any point. I did try and set up plans for my mental health a few years back, but I found it really hard to stick to, and because meetings with the doctor were irregular, any plans I made fell away.

I am currently having appointments with the occupational health therapist once a week. We talk about the things regularly, and I have tasks to go away and think about. It feels very pro-active, which has been very helpful. Sometimes I think that it is nice to talk to someone who seems to understand what I am thinking, and can even offer some suggestions as to why I think the way I do. I always feel silly when I try to speak about the way I am thinking, but to have some validation, it feels nice. It is like I am not as daft as I think I am, which is strange, but does make me feel good.

I am concerned that at some point, I won’t have these meetings any more, and I won’t be able to keep up any plans I have made. But, I am getting ahead of myself. I am making steps, and they seem to be going forward, for once.